Are cardigans gay
- Do guys look gay in cardigans?
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Do guys look gay in cardigans?
No, seriously. Every time I see a cardigan I think it makes you look like a flaming homo. But I've been seeing more and more guys wearing them lately (at least online/tv, not necessarily in person), and I'm wondering if maybe it doesn't give off this impression. Let's be honest here, there just are some male fashion things that make you look gay, and most straight guys don't want to give off this impression unless they're really, really comfortable with their sexuality. So, opinions?
No I'm not gay. Hence the term "I get mistaken for gay." Would I dance with a gay guy at a gay club if a friend dared me to? Sure I would, why not? What's the consequence? People might see me and think that I'm gay? So what, I'm not gay. People might see me walking down the street in a jacket and tie and think I'm some Wall Street corporation asshole, does that mean I shouldn't wear it?
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He's associating particular fashion items (at least one of which I think most of us would agree is fairly fashionable) with homosexuality. That is, he's letting his preconceptions color his taste in fashion. I tried making a suggestion to help him utilize his preconceptions to dress better, since it doesn't sound like they're going away anytime soon.
Are you? Would you be ok with going to a gay club and dancing with a gay guy if you were asked to? I'm not talking about whether or not you want to or have interest in it, would you do it if you were dared to or if a friend of yours really wanted you to do it for some reason? Be honest and re-evaluate the point I'm making here, and answer again without the sarcasm.
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I wouldn't say I'm close-minded. Maybe normal-minded. Just like I wouldn't want another guy grinding with me at a club. Does that make me close-minded? I'd have to say that most guys would be way too uncomfortable to do that. Most guys are a lot more uncomfortable with their sexuality than they pretend. No need to lie about it here, people. It's the internet. Totally anonymous. I wish people here would quit pretending to be so confident and acting like I'm the odd man out for expressing a legitimate, not too uncommon concern over whether something makes me look gay or not.
Not too formal, but it will definitely be above what the average guy is wearing. I think the question you want to ask yourself is essentially "do I want to dress well when I go to class?". What you wear is making a statement, married to your personality. Some people perceive that statement as confidence, organization and responsibility while others may associate it with elitism. Just keep your message in mind.
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Ok, first off quit even bringing up that I said "every". You should know by now that when someone says "every" cardigan, they don't mean every single cardigan. They mean most. So quit nitpicking and finding things to piss you off. Unless you really don't understand that when someone says "every" something, they don't actually mean every single one? And yes, no shit I was thinking about changing my opinion. Why else would I ask this question? Just to have people criticize me? Because I've gotten enough of that in this thread, thank you very much.
But I think it's safe to assume that most of us at MFA want to look better to attract female attention, in addition to being more confident. Maybe not all guys here, but if women didn't care how we dressed, would you doubt there would be much less subscribers to this sub? And we all know that the stereotype is that gays are well-dressed. Stereotypes got to be stereotypes for a reason. Wearing a tight pink t-shirt is going to make you look gay. Do you deny this? I'm really tired of defending myself every time I'm honest on here. People on this site can be much harsher than they pretend to be.
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Thank you for giving one of the first genuine answers in this thread. I think you're probably right. On the right guy, a good cardigan can look good, but it doesn't exactly highlight every guy's masculinity. I didn't realize that when I phrased that more bluntly this would turn into a hate thread against me. I have no problem with gay people, but I think when you mention the word "gay" in anything other than a totally flattering, positive sense, even if it's just a neutral sense, it turns everyone against you in a lynch mob. Sad really.
That statement is pretty damn clear. He never states in the post that he is considering a cardigan. Whether he backpedaled in some comment reply down where no one is looking is besides the point. If he wants to clarify by editing his post, he is free to do so. You are giving him a pass by just assuming that he didn't know what he meant or he wasn't being clear. I don't think the issue is the "poor wording", or the use of "flaming", I think the issue is that he clearly states that his opinion is that all cardigans make men look like homosexuals.